Many children suffer with self-esteem and struggle to feel good about themselves, especially when hormones kick in and their bodies start to change. As parents or caregivers, there are many things you can do to help them feel important and boost their confidence. So here are ten ideas to put into action. 
 

1. Praise their efforts 

Whether your little one draws a good picture or tries hard at sports day, it’s really important to praise their efforts - no matter how big or small. Even if they don’t come first in a race or get the result they want in a test, showing your support is key.

2. Listen when they talk

In a world of technology and distractions, it can be easy to half listen to your child while looking at the TV or your phone. This isn’t good for the development of their self-esteem, so try to step away from your device and pay clear attention to what they have to say.  
 

3. Utilise their skills  

One of the best ways for children to feel comfortable in their own skin is to utilise their skills. An example could be, “You’re amazing at fixing things, could you have a look at this broken [object] for me.” Or you could ask them to help with some cooking or baking.
 

4. Read them inspirational stories 

There’s a book about a lion called The Lion Inside, which is a wonderful inspirational story about self acceptance and being who you are. Reading such tales to your children and discussing the themes will help them to realise that being themselves is good enough. 
 

5. Participate in shared activities 

Going places your children love and doing activities they enjoy will help them to feel important and loved. With so many other things going on throughout a typical day, it’s always nice to put some time aside to spend with your kids.
 

6. Ask about their day

You might just get grunts during the teenage years, but asking about your child’s day will mean more to them than they let on. Even though they’re growing up, they still want to be acknowledged. You can also try to set time aside to talk about any worries or issues they may be having, listening without judgement to their responses. 
 

7. Cook their favourite food

Grand gestures aren’t always needed to make your child feel special. Simply cooking their favourite food should put a smile on their face and help them to feel valued. 
 

8. Tuck them in

Tucking them in at night and telling them bedtime stories will help your little ones to feel safe, secure and important. Of course, many parents work gruelling schedules, but keep an open dialogue with your children and let them know you love them even if you’re not at home for the bedtime routine. 
 

9. Join in their activities

You might not have a clue about the Nintendo Light or how to play basketball, but if they ask to show you something or want you to join in - give it a go. This will strengthen your bond and show your children you have time for them.
 

10. Tell them they’re important

It might sound too easy or obvious, but telling your children they’re important is one of the best things you can do. Telling them during quiet moments of reflection such as before bed will help them to feel secure.

If you’re looking for confidence boosting stories for your little ones then The Lion Inside author is Rachel Bright, and this book should be in most libraries. A book on lion feelings will help your children connect with their own emotions in an accessible way.